Michael Maccoby's book 'The Productive Narcissist' was recommended to me by a great consultant in San Francisco - Lori Ogden Moore.
Maccoby has been working with top CEOs around the world for many years and came to prominence with his award winning article in the HBR in 2000
http://bit.ly/bIhTiI called Narcissistic Leaders: Incredible Pros; the Inevitable Cons.
The book is out of print but I have scanned the questions that will help you assess what personality type you are.
The book appears simple in its offering but once you discover your own personality type - all the simplicity locks in to focus.
Maccoby's key point is that there was a gap of 4 year between Freud's initial damning explanation of a narcissist and his more considered analysis of narcissistic behavior. The more considered approach states that there's a first level of narcissism that we all need. If we don't feel good about ourselves at some level, then we are lost. It's this first level of narcissism that drives us and when you look at great leaders, this narcissism is critical to their achievements. However, there's a second level of narcissism that is the one we know best. This is the one where you lose all connection to self awareness and many leaders have fallen down by crossing this line.
However, Maccoby looks beyond the obvious of 2nd stage narcissism and tries to understand where failure occurs even for those who keep their ego in check. He uses three of Freud's personality types and adds a new one. Through his studies in combination with Freud's finding, he concludes the following - Narcissistic Obsessives make the best leaders when productive but if unproductive, they turn in to authoritarian bureaucrats, often paranoid and hoarders. Narcissistic Erotics is the creative, musician actor type when productive and when not, they are the seductive and exploitive type. The final combination is the Narcissistic Marketing personality type is a contradiction and often leads to someone who drives things forward without being aware of the method of bringing others along with them - understanding the different perspectives that you have to work with and persuade.
The four core personality types in summary:
The Erotic - They want to love and be loved.
The Narcissist - Impresses us as a personality, who disrupts the status quo and brings about change.
The Obsessive - They live up to high standards and ideals they set themselves, to show, at all times, that they fit the specs of "good child" to an internalized father figure.
The Marketer - They operate by radar, sensing what the market wants and needs, then conforming to it.
Invariably, personality type are driven by one of these four territories but combine with a close second driver. To give some balance behind the key driving personality, Freud added another criteria: Self Developing, Visionary, Caring and Systematic.
You will find in the pdf, all the elements you need to assess yourself.
What's important and not captured here is that Maccoby believes one of the most critical aspects one can learn through this process is to be able to work out what drives your colleagues and how best to operate with them based on their personality types.
It's an interesting exercise and don't be scared to see the narcissistic side come up. It's okay.
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